for me, an area where i have been experiencing all-or-nothing trip-ups lately is with my business - CALM yoga. i'm looking to build up my teaching experience, while also seeking to form a private client list. for whatever reason, i find that reaching out to and networking with potential clients is always at the end of my to-do -- and too often i find myself with little time to devote to it. and, then i catch myself thinking, "ugh, i only have 15 minutes -- that's not enough time to accomplish anything. might as well move it to tomorrow's to-do list". but, the thing is, if instead of stopping myself before i even begin, i could use those precious 15 minutes and put them to good use -- doing whatever i could to further and expand my business. and, over time, all those 15 minutes would add up to hours and hours of good work.
i wouldn't consider myself a negative person, but the thought process i just outlined is a totally "glass half empty" way of thinking. and that's not how i want to live my life. i want to see opportunities and possibilities everywhere i look, not obstacles and challenges. but, finding boundless good fortune in front of you starts with how you perceive your world on a day-to-day basis. so instead of seeing 15 minutes as not enough time, i need (and want) to see it as the perfect amount of time to make a difference -- even if it is small.
black and white living leaves no room for flexibility, growth or change. and it cuts possibilities off mid-sentence. if you want to see this way of thinking evaporate from your life, it must start with mindfulness. notice the internal dialogue you're playing in your head. if you have a propensity to lean in the all-or-nothing direction, allow some logic to seep into the equation - isn't 15 minutes of working on your passion, exercising, meditating, or whatever it is for you better than 0 minutes? i think so.
meditation for your journal or cushion:
where in your life do you notice all-or-nothing thought patterns?
what is a way you can handle it differently next time you find yourself thinking that way?